Weddings Abroad ~ What do you think of them

EvansMum · #1 (**permalink**) 28-07-11, 13:31

Do you think its selfish to go abroad and do it or is it the sensible option? I am soooooooo up for going abroad and getting married now but I dont think I can convince OH that its a good idea.

I have just had enough of everyone sticking their nose in (mostly my mother!!! Everytime I say something about my wedding she has an opinion about it and I normally end up in tears after talking to her

) and I really would be quite happy to go abroad somewhere with OH and Evan and anyone else who would like to come along and do it now.

We have booked the venue/photographer and registrar which overall deposits have cost us £750 so we would loose that but I think it would be cheaper in the long run! And I said we wouldnt need to cancel the venue as we could just use that to have a big party when we get back!

If we were to do it we could do it somewhere in Europe like Spain or Turkey so it wouldnt cost too much for guests to come along too!

Do you think thats being selfish???

jewel · #2 (**permalink**) 28-07-11, 19:27

It's entirely up to you two.

We were in a similar situation as you. I had booked venue and flowers and was getting so worked up at people interfering I went in to a travel agents, just out of interest 

Anyhow we cancelled the wedding here and booked Mauritius! We were able to have our dream wedding and a fabulous party when we got home.

It was definately the best decision for us and I have no regrets. We had an open invite for whoever wished to come. We had my mum, hubby's mum and stepdad and my best friend.

Whatever you choose don't be bullied in to your decision 

cole · #3 (**permalink**) 29-07-11, 06:56

I think its personal choice. My BIL got married in Cyprus and lots of family and friends went. xxx

rachaelmae · #4 (**permalink**) 29-07-11, 07:03

Weddings abroad are for sensible people

if your gonna spend a small fortune on 1 day at least get a holiday and good weather

xx

carla · #5 (**permalink**) 29-07-11, 21:41

why do family think they have to put there bit in to it, its not their wedding!!

we got married in Las-Vegas, which was fab been married 11 years tomorrow

iwantone · #6 (**permalink**) 29-07-11, 23:36

Agree with what everyone else has said it's YOUR day!

We got married in Las Vegas and then had a proper reception when we got back home and i wore my dress again etc We loved doing it that way and it was the best of both worlds IMO. Good luck with whatever you decide. x

LauraAK · #7 (**permalink**) 02-08-11, 11:27

Hi Evansmum

My friend got married in Italy last September and it was so intimate and beautiful. It meant that all the people she wanted there, were there, rather than having to invite long lost aunties which would have happened if she had done it in the UK.

One thing though, i think weddings are still really stressful wherever you host it and my lovely friend didn't expect that (i think she thought having it in Italy would be a stress free event but sadly not!). Plus i didnt help, as after the meal, i fell and tripped and broke my wrist! (whoops)

xxx

mrsharvey · #8 (**permalink**) 03-08-11, 14:04

like everyone else has said it's your choice. I got married in church in england but my sister got married in New York and my twin brother in South Africa. I went to the New York wedding but not South Africa because i was heavily pregnant and to be honest with you i was gutted not to be there

My younger sister didn't attend either wedding because of the cost and my mum and dad didn't go to my brothers either. My sisters in-laws didn't go to the wedding in new york which caused a lot of friction after.

We went to a friends wedding in cyprus and it was fab everyone stayed together in the main hotel or hired villas, both sets of parents where there and the bride and groom had a great time.

It's YOUR wedding Jenny do what is right for you and other half xxx

EvansMum · #9 (**permalink**) 06-08-11, 11:42

awww thanks everyone for your replies.

We have been thinking about this all week while we were on our hols. We have weighed it all up adn I think we are going to be doing it here instead. I really would be up for doing it abroad and I know that my friends and family would come too but I think OH isnt really up for the idea as it would be mostly his friends and family that wouldnt be able to go.

Anyway, we have decided that we are going to have it here and definately stick to what we want and do everything ourselves now. Even if it means turning down money that was meant to be coming to us from my parents cos I just cant be doing with the hassle. My mum is driving me mad and just seems to think that if I dont do things her way then Im doing it wrong

Claire76 · #10 (**permalink**) 11-08-11, 13:09

At the end of the day Jenny, it's your day like everyone else has said. If you are going to do it here then I think you need to be firm with your Mum and just tell her straight, that you are very grateful for their help but it is YOUR day and you would be grateful if it could be done the way you want

Hope she calms down and lets you get on hun xx