Is it just me being picky??

[Claire76]

I took Finlay for his 2nd settle in this morning and I have left there feeling really upset but don't know if it's just me being picky because I used to be a Manager of Day Nurseries.

When I left him, he said goodbye and gave me a kiss and ran off and the girl who is his keyworker said he'd be fine and seemed quite nice etc so I went to the restaurant in the club to have a drink so that I was still on site if needed and I felt quite happy. When I went to collect him I walked into the room and it was chaotic, they were sitting the children down for lunch, one member of staff was making up beds, one member of staff (Finlay's keyworker) was in the toilets doing handwashing and the other staff were all sitting children down/serving up lunch. Finlay was on his own, no-one watching him while all this was going on. No-one greeted me when I walked in the room so I was just stood there not knowing what happens next IYKWIM. Eventually his keyworker came over and said that he'd been fine, he'd got upset once so she had given him his muslin and that after that he was ok again. That he'd been playing with the puzzles and been in the home corner. She also said that he'd been saying where's mummy a lot (Finlay doesn't know how to say where ) I went over to Finlay and picked him up as he was standing on one of the beds and as I went over another member of staff said No nathan get down (His name is Finlay) then proceeded to tell me that he'd been doing puzzles, playdough, sticker books and a million other things, that he'd had a really nice day (had been there just under an hour) and that he didn't cry at all and there had been no problems. Finlay's nose was also streaming and he had snail trails all up his face where he'd been wiping the snot away rather than them doing it for him, a basic care need!


Is it just me being really picky and being a "Manager" and would be what I expect from my staff if they were mine or am I justified in being upset? I already didn't want to send him to a nursery, the first one was terrible so we didn't go back and this one seemed like a dream come true on my showround, I was actually near to tears when she was telling me everything as it seemed so amazing but today was a totally different story. Am feeling like I shouldn't send him Surely the staff should all know his name at least to make him feel welcome??????

[Anna07]

Oh hon, don't know what to say. I guess though what I would say is that it could just have been a chaotic day today and might not be a reflection on what it is like all the time. You've worked in nurseries so know what it's like and I imagine like any job there can be manic days.

I would give it a few more goes before pulling the plug. I agree with you that those things don't sound great but there could be reason for it, maybe there is a little boy called Nathan who looks like Finaly...?

There are things I am not always happy with about Izzy's nursery but the bottom line is I totally trust the girls 100% and she loves them so the things that sometimes hack me off aren't deal breakers IYKWIM

Big hugs and hope it is a bit better next time but if it carries on like this then def have a word

A xxxxxxxx

[acad]

Oh Hun, I'm not sure what to say, all i know is i would go with my gut instinct, i tend to always say that as it tends to be right. maybe give it another couple of sessions and then see how you feel
(((((((((huge hugs))))))))) xxxxxx

[Claire76]

Yeah, I've changed Thursday & Friday's session to the afternoon as Finlay is in a better mood after having a sleep and maybe it's not such a chaotic time and yes I know what it's like in nurseries and I totally understand they may have times where it's all a bit busy but I would have arranged a settle in to not coincide with this time but maybe that's just because I think more about stuff like that I don't know. They've arranged 5 weeks of settles so I have plenty of time I guess to make up my mind was more just trying to see whether I'm just being a picky nightmare mother or whether I'm justified in these concerns? I know you lot would be brutally honest with me

[rockingrobyn]

ach thats a shame, 9 times out of 10 your gut instinct is usualy right but they could have just been having a busy day. if its only his 2nd time maybe they just mistakenly got his name mixed up?? You could ask the keyworker or manager how they usually have their routine and how many children are assigned to each person. maybe give it another chance and see what you think, although i would have thought they'd have wiped his little nose. maybe ask some other parents what their opinions of the place is and if you're really unsatisfied and still not happy then consider another nursery? good luck

[sam10]

I'd be concerned too TBH.... I'd have a chat with the manager about my worries so they are aware you are concerned and that they can act on it...

My boy is in a nursery too and if that happened I'd be worried. Sorry probably not what you want to hear.....

[weaning]

Hope you get things sorted. I have been thinking of a nursery 1 day a week, its hard, I want to have confidence in people who might be looking after my LO xo

PS previous thread I've made a decision - eeeek!!

[Claire76]

Why have you given me the link to my previous thread??

[noababy]

Originally Posted by Claire76

Why have you given me the link to my previous thread??

LOL-she probably wrote something about her worries there as well.

[Claire76]

Oh!! silly me