I've asked him to leave...

[mitzigollop]

Well some of you will know that i've been having some problems with my OH recently and it all came to a head last week and i went to stay with my parents. i'm not sure what's going on in his head but i think he may be having some sort of mid-life crisis. He doesn't know if he is still 'in' love with me and doesn't know if he can get that 'feeling' back. But yet he's not even trying. I came back from my parents yesterday and have asked him to go stay at his mum's until he has decided that he wants to leave or give it a go (couldn't go on living as we have been for the last 6 weeks as it was just killing me). I was really hoping that he would have decided that we are worth fighting for by now. So feel sick that he's gone. and am so scared of becoming a single parent (not that there is anything wrong with it, it's just i imagine it's very hard on lots of levels). Obviously much more than this going on but don't have the strength to write it all down. Head is swimming with it all. Just feel so lonely and scared and don't know what to do. When we (ruby and I) got back last night i called him so he wouldn't worry and to thank him for cleaning the house and getting us some food in but he was up the pub, already enjoying his new single life!!! just so upsetting and he doesn't understand!!
Have asked him to go to counselling with me but not sure he will. Just a whole heap of crap!!! so sorry i've not been on that much lately but am sure you can see why.
xx

[wickypop]

awwwwww hun sending ((((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))))) x x x x x x x x x x x x x

sorry i dont have any advice but i do think you have done the right think even tho it is VERY hard x x x x i am thinking of you x x x x x if you need anything we are here to help x x x x x x take care x x x x x x

[vickiepower]

(((((((BIG HUGS))))))) maybe the time apart from each other will show him how important you are to each other. hope you are both ok xxxx

[Ellie H]

((((((((Massive Hugs))))))))

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[Bubba82]

aaahhhhhh sweetie (((big big hugs))) it seems to be that time of year!! OH and me had major row at weekend and i told him to sort his head out or f*ck off!! needless to say he sorted himself out...well kinda!!!

i know it's not the same but we're all here for you and ready to help in any way we can, LOL look at me talking on behalf of the community!! LOL well i am anyway xx

If he's not really willing to try and make things work then maybe you are better off without him, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that? and don't worry things aren't as hard as a single parent as ppl think, there's lots of help & support out there.

xxx

[Teilosmummy]

Dont really have any advice just wanted to send huge hugs.

[Bear]

Oh babe Im so sorry, sending lots of big (((((hugs)))))) to both you and Ruby. x x x x Take care. x x x x

[jewel]

Ah babes, bug hugs.

Do you know what you want? Thinking of you

T x

[mitzigollop]

thanks everyone. I want things to be how there were, maybe not quite so boring as they were and we shouldn't take each other for granted so much, but i love him and if anything this has made me realise how much i love him. But I can't make him stay if he doesn't want to. We've been together for almost 11 years now and i just can't imagine my life without him in it everyday, it's just so sad.
on the up side the 'my husbands being an arsehole' diet has helped me loose 6lbs in about 2 weeks so it's not all bad

[Imosmummy]

oh darling, i dont know what to say. Perhaps he needs time to relise what he has to lose, but in the mean time why should you be left dangling waiting for him to come to his senses? Extra huge hugs to you and ruby xxxx