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I am a breastfeeding mother who is now reaching the end of my tether
having lots of difficulties feeding my little baby. I wonder if anyone out there has contact details for Clare Byam Cook?

My fantastic midwife recommended her but doesnt have her details - she has beentrying to get in touch with a previous patient who has consulted CBC but
has been unable to get hold of her. Am getting pretty desparate now!
I would be very grateful for any help in getting hold of her contact details.

THank you.
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I am a breastfeeding mother who is now reaching the end of my tether
having lots of difficulties feeding my little baby. I wonder if anyone out there has contact details for Clare Byam Cook?

My fantastic midwife recommended her but doesnt have her details - she has beentrying to get in touch with a previous patient who has consulted CBC but
has been unable to get hold of her. Am getting pretty desparate now!
I would be very grateful for any help in getting hold of her contact details.

THank you.
Why dont you email Annabel direct, you will get a quicker response that wayx
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Lizzie I will forward your post onto admin.

I'm pretty sure people wouldn't be allowed to forward Claire's personal details on without her permission, all kinds of nutters on the net you know

Hope you get it sorted, have you tried phoning your local LLL for help yet? xxx
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You could try giving SMA a call
FWIW.......I'm pretty sure she *was* involved in helping them write leaflets at some point.

There is free professional help out there you know.......I'm sure the helplines are on the bf section on here. Would save you a small fortune
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[quote=fussymum;192798]CBC seems to think they do though - at least according to her books. She is quick to sneer at BFC's and Peer Supporters and the irony is that the role of a BFC is to give mothers evidence based info to enable them to make an informed decision about what is right for their baby. FWIW, I wasn't asking anyone to justify themselves, I am genuinely interested. I'm not sure if she had a perceived problem or whether the baby was behaving normally and mum just needed a bit of support rather than a solution. I actually suspect (though could be and hope I am wrong) that this problem is not solved yet as she is still using formula top-ups. The expressing after a feed will help, but you can't beat a baby for upping supply.

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I turned to CBC after trying to get my BFC to come and see me, as I was in pain feeding whilst cracked and bleeding and suffering from a C section. You might be very good with offering advice but when I needed nobody helped me. CBC DVD meant that I fed for six months and when I contacted my BFC for some other advice, she remembered me and said well done for perserveering, so I agree with CBC, sometimes BFC aren't always there.

I'm having my second child and will be much better prepared thanks to CBC. Also I wish you die hards would stop making women feel bad for using top ups, if you were a bit more supportive and inclusive then perhaps we would be able to continue breast feeding the best we can.
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Although this thread is now over a year old, I just wanted to support Imperfectmummy's advice to look up Clare Byam-Cook if a new mum stumbles across this forum whilst desperately searching for advice on how to keep breastfeeding.
I happened to meet Clare at the Baby Show yesterday, & although our chat came 2 years too late to be of any benefit to me, if I had been aware of Clare & her advice when my daughter was a newborn, I am certain things could have been very different for me. Unfortunately all the 'advisers' I came across at the time were, like Fussymum, as useful as a chocolate tea pot! When you're a new mum, stressed up to the eyeballs, desperately struggling to overcome difficulties in feeding, there are times when 'support' becomes bullying & unfortunately the breastfeeding support I was given was closer to the latter. I struggled to produce any milk (if I remember correctly, I managed to express the grand total of 150ml in 3 weeks, & my daughter didn't take any from source), couldn't get my daughter to latch on, was trying to navigate my way through the minefield of learning to sterilise bottles, pumps & make up formula because my little girl couldn't go unfed for 3 weeks and all the while trying to deal with the horrific guilt I felt at having to give my baby 'evil' formula. And that was on top of the normal emotional rollercoaster that most mums are experiencing in the days after birth!
I hadn't heard of Clare until yesterday, & in all honesty, even if I had I probably would have lumped her in with the Breastfeeding Mafia who made the first month of my daughter's life absolute hell for me, but having spoken to her I think the woman is a genius. She is pro-breastfeeding, which is fantastic, but she's also realistic - not every woman can do it, despite the Breastfeeding lobby insisting every mother can, and it's dangerous to the health of the baby & the emotional wellbeing of the mother to insist that exclusive breastfeeding is the only way to go, because it is not.
After 3 weeks of trying to feed my daughter, I was an emotional wreck - I was guilt ridden, upset & not enjoying those precious first weeks with my newborn at all. I needed someone like Clare to tell me it was OK to formula feed, even if I still wanted to continue trying to breastfeed at the same time. And that is what support is about - not going on about the evils of formula & making disparaging remarks about how Clare helped SMA write leaflets. Good for her if she did! As long as babies are being fed formula, their mothers need to know how to do it as safely as possible. Denying information will not make every mother accept that 'breast is best', it will only serve to put babies at risk. Taking the pressure off & not railroading new mums into breastfeeding is probably the best way forward, & more women will be inclined to do it & continue doing it if the Mafia pipe down a bit. Branding fellow mums 'inadequate' (which one particular IQ-challenged breastfeeding 'adviser' called me for being unable to bf) & giving it both barrels when it comes to combined feeding is not beneficial to the cause and will only serve to push new mums away from breastfeeding. Surely the aim ought to be for women to bf 100%, but if they can't for whatever reason, some breastmilk is better than none?
Thankfully, at 2, my little girl is happy, healthy & as cheeky as they come despite only ever having had those 150mls of 'mummy juice'. However, had I met Clare 28 months ago, I probably would have more good memories of my daughter's first weeks.
If you're having problems, seek advice quickly to try to rectify the situation before having to resort to 100% formula, but if you do have to supplement or replace breastfeeding with 'chemical' milk, don't feel guilty. If you are pregnant, learn how to sterilise a bottle & do some research on formula milk just so that you can make informed decisions if it becomes necessary. Trying to figure out what bottles to use, how to sterilise & how to make up powdered milk when you have a hungry newborn crying for food only adds to the stress of the situation. Even if it is information which you never need to call upon, knowledge is power & can help make an unexpected situation less scary & allow you to concentrate on getting your milk to come in. Drink lots, especially when it's hot, then drink more! And look up Clare - she's a much better spokeswoman for the breastfeeding campaign than any of the 'breastfeeding or die!' brigade!
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*yawn* VOTE CLARE VOTE CLARE! What will we do if she ever retires.....books are one thing but omgoodness those £100 an hour visits may never be again. I wonder if she could train up her buddy Gina? Oh silly me, you don't need any training. Phew!
I could spend a lot of time picking through the above post (as I'm sure you know) but drink lots!!!!! Come on!!!! Please! I know I go on about evidence based research.......but I'd be really interested to see it on this one *rolls eyes*

How did the human race ever exist without formula? Yes, in some cases (very rare) it can be life saving but........you know, I think I'm actually losing the will here! Stock up on bottles, stock up on powder as we wouldn't like the multunationals to go under in this climate would we? Let the formula companies keep advertising - we all know that advertising is completely unbiased, so lets arm ourselves with this knowledge, what do WHO and/or NICE know about how to prepare formula safely - nope we NEED Clare!

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I think I'm actually losing the will here!
The sh*te is wearing after a while, innit? Floggin a dead horse sometimes.

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Dear faith77,

Welcome to the forum and thank you for taking the time to write such a long and considered reply.

Whether I agree with you or nor is irrelevant but I feel embarrassed that fussymum, in her CRUSADE against CBC is just downright, bloomin' rude.

So, please feel free to browse the forum, especially as most of us are pleasant normal mummies looking for a little advice.

Fussymum 'thinks' she is putting her side forward and warning us of the terrible dangers of CBC. The abililty of browse the web, cherry pick a few facts which support your ideas and then post them isn't that clever. It has been suggested before that people are more willing to accept your argument if you put them across in a reasonable and rational way. But this has been ignored. So now it is time for me to be rude. Fussymum- get lost!

I don't really agree with some of the arguments of either side, so before you say it fussymum, I am not one of CBC's minions.

But when someone takes the time and effort to come on here and put across and point and you are so rude- you should be ashamed. I hope your children have better manners and 'listening' skills than you do.

Maybe you could learn how to interact on forums by actually taking part in some other threads and seeing how other, grown up mummies help and offer advice to other people.

But until you do, please pick up your ball and play elsewhere.
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Dear faith77,

Welcome to the forum and thank you for taking the time to write such a long and considered reply.

Whether I agree with you or nor is irrelevant but I feel embarrassed that fussymum, in her CRUSADE against CBC is just downright, bloomin' rude.

So, please feel free to browse the forum, especially as most of us are pleasant normal mummies looking for a little advice.

Fussymum 'thinks' she is putting her side forward and warning us of the terrible dangers of CBC. The abililty of browse the web, cherry pick a few facts which support your ideas and then post them isn't that clever. It has been suggested before that people are more willing to accept your argument if you put them across in a reasonable and rational way. But this has been ignored. So now it is time for me to be rude. Fussymum- get lost!

I don't really agree with some of the arguments of either side, so before you say it fussymum, I am not one of CBC's minions.

But when someone takes the time and effort to come on here and put across and point and you are so rude- you should be ashamed. I hope your children have better manners and 'listening' skills than you do.

Maybe you could learn how to interact on forums by actually taking part in some other threads and seeing how other, grown up mummies help and offer advice to other people.

But until you do, please pick up your ball and play elsewhere.
I refuse to get drawn into another childish "we hate fussymum" argument but
Quote "It has been suggested before that people are more willing to accept your argument if you put them across in a reasonable and rational way" Unquote

and then if you read the rest of that post back, it pretty much sums up my feelings of your reply. One thing I can say is I have never drawn anyone elses children into it or been personal to anyone on this forum.
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