Feeling like I may be losing it

KristySmitten · #1 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 16:16

Hoping someone has some advice - I have been having a bit of a hard time lately, feeling tired, irritable, unmotivated but worst of all finding it hard to concentrate (especially at work). Subsequently in my job I have been making lots of silly little forgetful errors which is really upsetting me.

I guess generally I feel like I need a holiday and feel like I am burning out but its 5 more weeks until I have christmas holidays yet.

So my question is can anyone suggest a supplement of anything that will give me a bit of a boost? I previously took a tonic which helped so maybe I should try that again. Just an ideas to help me feel a bit more human would be much appreciated. xx

noababy · #2 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 17:00

First of all-get someone to watch your lo's for a night and get some sleep.

Reflexology can also really help if you can afford to go for a few sessions. Shiatsu as well. There are pressure points for stimulating energy and stuff.

But seriously-the most important thing is to get as much sleep as you can-even if it means the housework going on the wayside for a bit. And talk to your hubby about all this as well.

Anna07 · #3 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 17:54

Hugs Kirsty, I totally know where you are coming from as we are going through much the same thing.

I can truly vouch for reflexology, I really find it truly relaxes me and it has helped me with physical ailments (sp) too in the past.

At the end of the day Suzi is right about the sleep, when I was approaching meltdown at a breakneck speed earlier this year OH booked for he and I to go to a spa hotel for 2 nights without Iz and it was fantastic to relax not worry about house, job, LO for 2 days and get some rest.

Could anyone have your LO for a day and a night so you could get a break even if it is just at home.

ladybug · #4 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 21:59

betablockers and valium?

KristySmitten · #5 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 22:05

Thanks guys for your replies. xx

I would LOVE to try reflexology, is it very pricey? I think I know someone who knows a reflexologist so will make some inquiries.

I do try to get as much sleep as possible and compared to some of the poor mummies i get plenty of sleep, LO rarely wakes in the night and is not up especially early & I only have one LO at this stage! But I do work four full days a week and life is tiring fitting everything. Sometimes I feel a hundred years old but am not yet 30! The fact I feel tired physically is annoying but when my mind suffers i.e forgetting things, doing stupid things I get a bit more worried!!

Will speak to hubby too about maybe having a day out to just have some recharge time.

ladybug · #6 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 22:16

I think you could probably get time off from your doc hon

KristySmitten · #7 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 22:26

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Originally Posted by ladybug

betablockers and valium?

LOL! Might be an option yet!

KristySmitten · #8 (**permalink**) 04-11-08, 22:30

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Originally Posted by ladybug

I think you could probably get time off from your doc hon

I feel like if I went to the Dr and said this is how I am feeling that they won't do anything or say anything useful anyway. Plus I feel like a bit of a failure, to be honest - lots of peeps have busy lives and they cope OK so why should I feel so rundown & burnt out, silly attitude I know.

wagonmonkey · #9 (**permalink**) 05-11-08, 03:47

Now I am NOT an expert, but what you describe sounds like it could be a depression. Especially if you are getting what should be enough sleep. Might be worth talking to your doctor and seeing what they say. Maybe see if you can get some time away from your lo to recharge. Maybe even taking a good complete multivitamin might help. Think about it, when you go through pregnancy and childbirth, your resources can get depleted. Doesn't hurt at the very least.

Without knowing much about your history (and really it is none of my business so will not pry), hard to say what exactly is causing this. I say go to the doctor and see what happens. Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself. If you don't feel right, get it looked into. See if you have any additional insurance coverage for stuff like massage or reflexology (I imagine those aren't covered by health care- they aren't here). The doctor may give you a blood test or something to rule out any thing else that could be wrong with you (I hope not though!!).

Sorry, I got a lot shoved together in this post. Just doing some brainstorming for you. Hope you are feeling much better soon!

noababy · #10 (**permalink**) 05-11-08, 07:09

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Originally Posted by KristySmitten

I feel like if I went to the Dr and said this is how I am feeling that they won't do anything or say anything useful anyway. Plus I feel like a bit of a failure, to be honest - lots of peeps have busy lives and they cope OK so why should I feel so rundown & burnt out, silly attitude I know.

Hun everyone is different, and all of us manage better or worse depending on what is going on in our lives at that particular moment. Did you know that trying to be supermum can actually cause autoimmune disorders? No one is perfect, there is no shame in saying that right now I am finding things tough for me and to ask for help.
I would do blood tests-specifically hemoglobin, iron levels, electolytes, liver and kidney functions, b12 and thyroid tests. Once all those come back fine, then you can look for more emotional factors causing what you are describing.

The other thing I would suggest that may help you (also to sleep better and also feel better) is exercise. I know that it would be hard to add that into a an alreqady busy week, but if you find the time for exercise 3-4 times a week 30 minutes each time-I gaurantee that you will be feeling better and more energetic.

HUGS!