i just don't know what to do next with her...

Bubba82 · #1 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 08:20

remember i said Mia is really clingy of late and cries if i go out of view well that i can deal with through the day but night time is getting unbarable!! she goes to sleep no probs but then at some point in the early hours (it's a dif time each night!) she wakes up and comes into our room which isn't the prob it's the fact that it's 3hrs before she goes back to sleep again!!

i take her back into her room and i have to stay with her until she goes back to sleep otherwise she works herself up into a right state with snot all over her face type crying!!

any ideas on how i can get this sorted???

Rachael1 · #2 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 09:00

Aw poor little thing. I take it isn't a little bug she has or something? Evie has a little bout of being more clingy than at other times but like you say, it's easier to take during the day time!

Evie did have a phase a few month back, tho, where she would wake up like that. I did *hangs head low* let her lie in bed with me (Dad left for the spare room of his own accord) but she would lie for about the same length of time as Mia, just lying staring at the ceiling, climbing over me to cuddle in, and sitting up the odd time to whisper "mammy? mammy?" very cute if tiring! She did just break herself out of it after a while - we would have a few nights ok, then a few nights of waking. All is back to normal now - fingers crossed! But I guess I probably wouldn't advice my lazy tactics in case it does develop bad habits. Not much help there I'm afraid!
Just to let you know Evie sort of grew out of it really.

Bubba82 · #3 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 09:05

she is teething at the mo and the clingyness does tye in with this but it's just tiring me out all this night time kerfuffle, have tried letting her in bed with us but as soon as she sees daddy she thinks "ohhh it must be play time" !!!!!

ladybug · #4 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 09:07

Katie was the same. We brought her into OUR bed for ages. After a while we'd have her in with us at first, then go through to her room and lie with her and tiptoe through once she was asleep. Then we reduced the mummy bed time, til she got a quick cuddle then away through together, by which point sleeping was routine iykwim xxx

Rachael1 · #5 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 09:11

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Originally Posted by Bubba82

she is teething at the mo and the clingyness does tye in with this but it's just tiring me out all this night time kerfuffle, have tried letting her in bed with us but as soon as she sees daddy she thinks "ohhh it must be play time" !!!!!

Kick 'im out

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Originally Posted by ladybug

Katie was the same. We brought her into her bed for ages. After a while we'd have her in with us at first, then go through to her toom and lie with her and tiptoe through once she was asleep. Then we reduced the mummy bed time, til she got a quick cuddle then away through together, by which point sleeping was routine iykwim xxx

Good idea. Think if it happens again I might just try that approach.

rachaelmae · #6 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 10:04

Im very mean and let her have a good ol cryxxxxxxxxxxxxx

isabellasmum · #7 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 10:17

On the odd occasion Isabella wails in the night I go in, stroke her face and tell her to zip it

Sent OH in last night as she was moaning. He went in, kissed her, gave her the dummy and said "now no more tears or you and me are going to fall out"

Not sure I'd recommend my approach unless you're happy for social services to take an avid interest in your parenting...

Nickit · #8 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 11:06

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Originally Posted by rachaelmae

Im very mean and let her have a good ol cryxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I'm probably in the same 'treat em mean' camp, so probably don't have any advice you want to hear. I just think that they are wily little things these children and they will use every trick in the book to pull on our heartstrings and exploit us.

She may grow out of this, but....if she doesn't can you really cope with this as well as the new bubba? You probably have the two options; one - let her cry/use controlled crying - horrendous but quick; two - like LB says and a 'gradual withdrawal' type approach.

Whatever you choose you need to be consistent. All easier said than done though.

Big hugs hun, you need your rest at the mo so take it easy.
xx

Anna07 · #9 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 11:22

We were horrible and did controlled crying, it did the trick though but was hard....

Hugs, lack of sleep isn't good.

Bubba82 · #10 (**permalink**) 21-10-08, 11:22

i've tried controlled crying before and it didn't work for us and not only do i hate seeing her in the state she she gets herself in OH has to be up for work early so i can't really have her crying through the night oh and when i tried controlled crying before she cried for 3hrs non-stop!!!

i really don't know what to do, i guess i'll just have to see if once the last toothypeg is through whether she settles back to how she used to sleep otherwise i'm gonna be looking for baby-clorophorm (sp)