Help me see past rose tinted glasses

[Claire76]

Wasn't sure where to put this so here will do

On Twitter, I have a guy that has "befriended" me. We've been chatting every day since I joined in February. Seems really lovely, talks about his wife, children, grandchildren and dog a lot and is always really lovely, says he lives on the IOW.

He has found me on FB and sent a message asking if it's me. I haven't yet replied.

He seems totally genuine, have asked questions in the past to see if he was fake and I don't think he is. I can usually spot a troll/fake quite easily from here as experience but I'm not sure what to do. Obviously Facebook is more personal. I have pics of my friends and family and lots of Finlay and talk about "real" stuff.

Am I wearing my rose tinted specs again where the world is a lovely place and I wouldn't be caught up in anything nasty? Or should I trust my gut and accept his friend request because he really is the genuine person I think he is? I am totally aware of the dangers of the internet and people not always being who they say they are but deep down I really think this man is for real. He comes across as a really sweet man, who has been sucked into the Twittersphere whilst recovering from a heart attack. But I do always see the best in people. So felt I needed advice on what to do. I need to respond to him, so not sure whether to tweet him saying it is me but I only have family and friends on there so thanks but no thanks (obviously nicer than that!) or should I accept him? Or am I just being totally thick..............

[rachaelmae]

Dodgy as a dodgy thing.

I would be careful, keep it at twitter... why FB? if you chat on twitter xxx

[Bubba82]

i'm suspicious of everyone but that's my issue from my past

if he's friend requested you on FB you will be able to see his profile without accepting him, so have a nose at his pics etc and see if you can make up your mind if he's genuine or not.

xxx

[Claire76]

Originally Posted by Bubba82

i'm suspicious of everyone but that's my issue from my past

if he's friend requested you on FB you will be able to see his profile without accepting him, so have a nose at his pics etc and see if you can make up your mind if he's genuine or not.

xxx

Already tried that, all his details are blocked but then so are mine

Think I'm being too trusting as per think I'll message him to say just Twitter xx

[Bubba82]

i think that's best, peado's are clever! not saying he is but better to be safe

[Claire76]

Done. Am way too trusting

[cole]

I wouldn't cause you just never know xx

[EvansMum]

I wouldnt add him just to be on the safe side. I maybe would have done in the past (me and OH actually met through fb!) but not now that i am older and wiser...... Kind of

[Izzywizzysmummy]

I wouldn't Claire. He may be absolutely genuine, but then he may not and it's not worth the risk.

No harm in keeping your chats on Twitter.

Maybe you could just tell him you don't use FB much so will keep chatting to him on Twitter - or that it's just for family.

Good luck - let us know how you get on x

[iwantone]

Glad you've said no. You just can't be too careful these days unfortunately. x