Playing with other kids

[HappyChappy]

My 4 year old loves going to soft play and if we go ourselves then she happily goes and plays herself and with any children she sees there. However we went on Friday and met with my friends and their kids, and she didn't play with them but went off on her own and played. The other kids all went off and played together. My daughter really enjoyed herself but one of my friends kept telling her children to go and play with my daughter. It made me feel as if my daughter wasn't mixing but she had a great time and only came to see me when she wanted a drink. If we arrange to meet one child at soft play, she will play with that child no problem. I know that she is mixing well at nursery as her teacher has told me. She is an only child and we are not having any more children. Should I be worried about this, or does it show that she knows her own mind and is doing what makes her happy?

[isabellasmum]

Sounds perfectly normal, I would be pleased that she was confident enough to play independently.

[EvansMum]

I wouldnt worry. Evan is a bit of a 'loner' when it comes to playing sometimes. When Evan gos to nursery I ask him who he played with today and he always tells me that he played with himself ( Childish I know but that always makes me laugh!) I know he has lots of friends there and is always talking about them and playing with them but in the playground he prefers to go off on his own (he likes to pretend that he is a train!). He is the same wherever we go really. He will occasionally play with others but likes to go off on his own, more often than not.

[acad]

My girls still do the same, sounds normal x

[cole]

Georgias a loner too

[HappyChappy]

Thanks everyone. Makes me realise that she is just like a lot of other kids her age. She always looks so happy when she is away playing at soft play and that is the main thing. Letting her find her own way is important and she is very independent, and can play happily herself at home.