Need some advice ladies

[iwantone]

i picked Oliver up from his little camp an hour ago and his face was covered in scratches. Some of them bleeding. I was told by another teacher that Olivers teacher was going to come and speak to me about it. She said another little boy did it to him and there were consequences for that little boy. I asked exactly who it was and wasn't surprised to hear her answer. Only 2 days ago I had brought to the teachers attention that we were having a problem with this certain little boy as we are quite friendly with his parents and sometimes get together on weekends for playdates etc This has been happening for a few weeks now that at any given opportunity this boy pushes Oliver over for absolutely no reason. 2 weeks ago we were at a local waterpark with other friends and we happened to bump into this other boy with his nanny and he calmly walked over to Oliver and pushed him really hard Oliver fell on a kerb scraped all down his spine and whacked the back of his head. I am pretty sure the parents didn;t find out about this incident but I do know that they have also witnessed their little boy doing mean things and pushing Oliver over. Sorry this is so long winded but i just don't know what to do. I am thinking do I keep Oliver off camp next week as it is only running for another 2 weeks and we go on holiday anyway next weekend. It is especially awkward as the parents seem to pass it off each time as "oh i think he is only really being playful" i know it must be hard and embarassing for them but I really don't want Oliver being knocked about by this boy. By keeping him off camp and maybe not getting together with them so much is one thing but the thing is in Sept they are both in the same room at nursery. Any advice anyone as I just feel helpless right now not to mention really upset. x

[LittleMissMe]

I would talk to the camp supervisors and the teachers at the nursery about it. They are aware that the little boy is a problem and is regularly violent to Oliver, and as they are aware of it he shouldn't be anywhere near Oliver without being closely supervised. As there have been so many incidents there are no excuses for the nursery/camp to keep allowing it to happen.

As for the parents, can you explain that Olivers injuries are becoming too serious and you can't have him near that little boy? I'd be mortified if one of my children were doing this and would certainly try to sort it out! really hope you get something sorted, poor Oliver xxx

[daisy duke]

I would start off by having a word with the camp, ask them to be extra vigilant and if necessary they should be informing the parents of his behaviour. I would try and send Oliver if you can, he shouldn't have to miss out because of someone else. Could you have a little word with Oliver and tell him to try and keep away from this other boy for the time being? Hope you can get something sorted, cant be nice for either of you xx

[rachaelmae]

Surely the camp will tell the boys parents? I would speak to the camp, get them to keep an eye, I would also speak to the parents.. if it were my kids being awful i would want to know!

[iwantone]

Thanks for the advice ladies. As it happened when I was leaving the building with Oliver the boy and his dad were ahead of us and the boys dad said Oh no look at Oliver's face what did he do. I said ______ did it to him. He was obviously embarrassed and very apologetic as you would be. I agree and think the teacher beside telling me what happened should have told his parents what went on especially as they said there were "consequences" for this little boy. I would want to know if Oliver had been given a time out / shouted at what it was for etc Also on the other hand like you said RM I would want to know if Oliver was being a little tyke. I had a text from the mum apologising and saying that he has been really unsettles since starting camp. I feel let down by the camp.

[Claire76]

Hope you find a solution, we're just having this at the mo with Finlay. For the last 2 weeks he's been coming home from pre-school every day with scratches (bad ones) down his face, neck, arms, chest and back, plus bruises from being pushed over and last Friday 2 cuts on his arms where he was pinched. Unfortunately this week we've now had problems with Finlay hurting others. He's had a stern talking to by us but TBH I think he got to the point where he now thinks well if you're going to hurt me then I will hurt you. 2 wrongs don't make a right I know but he's obviously thinking this is now acceptable behaviour there. Here we're not allowed to tell the parents who the children are that are involved, child protection issues which are ridiculous because I would want to speak to the parents if it were Finlay being horrible and apologise to them. Anyway, they say they're dealing with it but I don't think they are or it wouldn't keep happening. He'll be out of there in a few weeks so just hope it calms down!! Good Luck, it's horrible when they're being picked on like that xx