Dilemma!

Upsydaisytoo · #1 (**permalink**) 28-02-10, 23:45

Ok sorry this is a bit long but here goes.... With my wee boy I breastfed him, all was fab but felt a wee bit claustraphobic as he was my 1st and didn't think I would ever be able to go to the shops myself again so decided to introduce a bottle, it took me 3 months (no joke) of trying almost every day and different bottles until he finally took it. So.....with my new wee baby girl I decided from the start I wouldn't do that again as it was so stressful. People have been saying to me "remember and give her a bottle early so she will take it" My response was that I wouldn't be giving her a botte as feeding was fab, she is going to be my last and am prepared to be with her as long as she needs me as want to tresure every second. And also don't feel claustraphobic this time as I know the feeding all the time does even out and getting out on my own is not important. Well this was all good until my wee boy has a nursery outing. The whole trip is only for 2.5 hours and if Isla feeds right before I go then she would probably be fine but it's not easy to time her feeds like that and I would try and feed her before I go but she is not a greedy wee thing and if she is not hungry she won't take it. My sis has offered to look after her, she has also offered to follow the nursery bus and come with us incase Isla needs fed. Isla probably can't go on the bus due to insurance blah blah blah. Fraser probably isn't bothered if he goes or not but feel he should go and I should be there with him. Sis also offered to go on the trip with him instead of me but think I should go. As I am writing this I cannot believe what a big deal I am making about this. Probably we should not go, he won't know he is missing out and there will be plenty of other things in the future but instaed I am giving myself such a hard time. Going round in circles here. Feel torn. Fraser needs me as I am his Mummy and should be there and Isla needs me to feed her...aaarrrghh! I am so annoyed 'cos I was so proud of myself as I had decided I was not going to do the bottle thing and now I feel I have to. Oh forgot to say I have tried the bottle with Isla 4 times, 4 different brands and a cup, my mum and OH have had a go too but no way is she taking it. Haven't tried tomme tippee closer to nature yet. Should I give up, cancel the trip and forget it ..or... buy another type of bottle and keep trying? Sorry for rambling on and on and on!!!!

noababy · #2 (**permalink**) 28-02-10, 23:47

I say stop being hard on yourself. If it is not logistically possible with Isla's feedings, let your sis go with him and relish the fact that he has such a nice relationship with his aunt.

Honestly hun don't beat yourself up because in ten years you won't even remember this and neither will he.

HUGS though!

ladybug · #3 (**permalink**) 28-02-10, 23:53

Hiya hon

I'd let sis go too. I never get to go on any of Katie's nursery days but she goes with her gran and loves it.

Have you tried cup feeding?

Is it a feeding in public thing? xxxx

carla · #4 (**permalink**) 28-02-10, 23:55

can you not just feed her on the trip?

as for the bottles pick one make and stick with it keep trying every couple of day and get oh or some one to give it to her not you till she has the hang of it

it took fraser about 8 weeks to take a bottle but then at 10 month he refused to have a bottle

ladybug · #5 (**permalink**) 28-02-10, 23:56

Remember you'll be able to use a straw in a few months..... that soo does not help la la la x

Upsydaisytoo · #6 (**permalink**) 01-03-10, 00:16

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Originally Posted by noababy

I say stop being hard on yourself. If it is not logistically possible with Isla's feedings, let your sis go with him and relish the fact that he has such a nice relationship with his aunt.

Honestly hun don't beat yourself up because in ten years you won't even remember this and neither will he.

HUGS though!

Think your advice is fab Noababy and I know this is what I should do! He loves his Auntie but just a bit worried about explaining why I am not going incase he takes the huff!

Carla - I have asked the Nursery if I can take her, but they haven't got back to me and we are going on a bus so they will probably give me some health and safety speil (sp?)!

LB - Feel really strongly about these things but where poss I think Mummy should be there. I have tried a cup - no success. Public feeding doesn't bother me at all. Am very subtle

Bubba82 · #7 (**permalink**) 01-03-10, 09:07

dito what Sooz has said, there will be plenty more trips when they are both older that you will be able to go one xx

noababy · #8 (**permalink**) 01-03-10, 11:39

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Originally Posted by Upsydaisytoo

Think your advice is fab Noababy and I know this is what I should do! He loves his Auntie but just a bit worried about explaining why I am not going incase he takes the huff!

Make it into a fun thing for him and a cool thing and he won't take the huff. If you feel guilty he will pick up on it and will take the huff.

Sure mothers should go if they can, but really honestly-big deal if they don't. At least there is someone who can go. Why go and not be able to devote all your attention to him cause you will have Isla with you?

mummydotty · #9 (**permalink**) 01-03-10, 15:01

Susie's right (as usual

) I say let your sis take him & when he gets home he can tell you all about it & draw you pics of what he's done

Anna07 · #10 (**permalink**) 01-03-10, 15:08

even before i read the other responses my gut instinct was let your sister take him, make it into a fun day out and special treat with his aunt. he won't know any different and there will be loads of other opportunities when isla is a bit bigger and able to be left longer for you to have time doing things like this with him.