thanks everyone. I want things to be how there were, maybe not quite so boring as they were and we shouldn't take each other for granted so much, but i love him and if anything this has made me realise how much i love him. But I can't make him stay if he doesn't want to. We've been together for almost 11 years now and i just can't imagine my life without him in it everyday, it's just so sad.
on the up side the 'my husbands being an arsehole' diet has helped me loose 6lbs in about 2 weeks so it's not all bad