Don't try to cut down the milk feeds. Your baby needs the milk and that's why on demand feeding is so great! It's a little hard to accept, your baby not sleeping thrugh the night, and seeming to demand so much milk, but it is COMPLETELY normal. It's very easy to expect that your baby will sleep through and go for four hours etc between milk feeds, but those really are the habits of a FF (formula fed) baby.
All babies wean themselves off at different times - it's very unusual for a child not to have weaned themselves off the breast completetely by 18 months (it's still great for babies to feed beyond this - but I think there is often strong encouragement from the mum to continute this long and beyond btw I would feed til 2 if I could be a SAHM).
Katie was off daytime feeds by around 10 months. After that it was a bedtime feed (fed her to sleep) a 3/4am feed and an early mornin feed. Othr than that she just had solids and water/juice throughout the day. I was wishing I had introduced cow's milk in a sippy cup from 6 months - as she hates it now and won't drink milk at all!
So I am afraid I am not much help in response to your OP - don't cut down the feeds. I totally understand you expecting that you would though. If you want you could try 'dream feed' which is when you lift the baby while they are sleeping, at say midnight? And offer them the breast - they usually naturally latch on and take a nice feed and keep sleeping throughout, then go back in the cot and sleep for a good bit longer. Katie was a monster and woke up at her usual time anyways..... grrrrr but worth a try as all bubbas are different.
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