I am not sure what it was that claire posted but think the response is a bit harsh.
As easy as it it to write on paper about not letting them push your buttons and not shout at them its simply not that easy.
I am often told how chilled out i am and how i dont lose my cool and how good Oliver is.
That said i am not ashamed to admit that yes he can push my buttons and yes i have shouted at him. I do not think there is a parent who can honestly say the same hasnt happened to them.
Im not going to get into what is and isnt acceptable behaviour for children or how it should be dealt with but comments like these are not "helpful"
yes parents are responsible for the majority of their childs behaviour but not the only factor. That would be like saying all criminals, drug addicts etc are the products of bad parents which simply isnt so.
its obvious that claire loves her little boy to pieces and is making efforts to improve her relationship with him. Its no secrect that she has has had a really rough time and that is bound to make her unsure of herself and others, a bit of support would be a huge encouragement to her.
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